Body Shaming

So it's 2016, Autumn/fall has landed and we're all starting to wear our comfy clothes yet I'm here thinking about body shaming. I can't get my head around at why it's still happening... It shouldn't be. I've been very fortunate that I haven't personally been body shamed too much (apart from the times I got called Twiggy, stick insect etc at school by one person), thankfully or maybe this is because I consciously point my 'selfie' camera at angles that capture me in my best angles? This should not be something I or anyone should be doing. We are who we are; whether we're short, tall, thin, curvy or if we have medical issues (yes some of us do have issues). Our beauty should be defined as how kind we are, the way we treat others, what our dreams/aspirations are and so on, not just on how we look.

When you see celebrities getting body shamed in the media on whether they have their lips done, they have put on weight, lost too much weight or even for not wearing any makeup; this has a profound effect on the rest of us especially those of us who really don't fit in. It makes me feel inadequate and possibly like a freak but everyday I tell myself that I am who I am and there's nothing I can do about it so I'm learning to embrace how I look and feel inside. I focus on the parts I do love; for example my hair, my makeup and treating others how I want to be treated. As we get older, whether it's from childhood to late teen or from a teen to a grown adult; our bodies change which is natural. Why do model agencies and the media always categorise the models whether they're 'slim, tall and curvy... why can't they just have them as models... just models. Like I've already stated, we are all different sizes and shapes so why put us in categories?

I know my self worth and that I am beautiful in my own unique way just as everyone else is too. I always look for clothes that will fit my body shape the best that they can in order to flatter how I look. Growing up, I used to always wear clothes that are baggy in order to hide my imperfections and to reduce any additional stares from strangers until I learned that they made me look and feel worse. This will go for anyone, and not just for the likes of me. I've spent many years trying to have different supplement drinks like Calshakes, Calogen, Fortisips and having high calorie/dairy diets which I think made me feel worse. The drinks filled me up and made me feel bloated which ended up in me losing some of my appetite. I was constantly worrying about what I ate, how much I ate and checking my weight. Nowadays I'm much more relaxed in myself and I just let myself eat what I want as long as it's a balanced diet sort of thing. I'm learning to know what I like and what food helps/doesn't help me. It's nice that people may offer you dieting advice, there's no harm in trying suggestions but be careful. As you get older and learn your own body, you will find what's good for you, yourself.

As a woman, I feel we should be empowering and supportive towards each other not judging. This goes for men too. No one should be made to feel inferior of anybody and we to be more compassionate towards one another.

I love this quote. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we can give out more compliments to whoever we meet? We all deserve to feel good about ourselves and a compliment could really make a big difference to someone's day. Let's have more openness, compliments and less judgement!! 

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